A Perspective on Love
This isn't going to be a humorous blog. It's more along the lines of questioning stuff. Maybe you'll like it anyway.
Rather tired right now am I. Lifting always makes me feel sick to my stomach and that sucks. I don't start feeling good again for another few hours. I don't do it because it's fun, I do it because it's good for me. Dustin is sleeping in the extra bed tonight for some reason he told me but didn't make sense. Blah I feel like barfing. But on to the topic I intend to talk about.
One of the things I wondered about today was why love exists. It's for the purpose of reproduction, a basic human need, along with hunting and gathering and things of that nature. But do other animals fall in love also? Does it really require a higher level of thinking to fall in love? Even the dumbest of people fall* in love. *The way it's worded it seems as though love is this bottomless pit of which there is no escape. Animals (like kitty cats) go in heat, and I'm wondering if this is the same as love. It is for the purpose of reproduction. It ensures that you will reproduce. Love makes you blind to all faults the other person has. Then again, there's supposedly love between family members. I disagree. You love someone in bed. It's not intended for those in the same DNA pool. Unless you're in Mississippi. My point is that there is a difference between love between those dating and those in the same family. With one, you want to be around them all the time, you laugh at all their jokes and think they're the best person in the world. With the other, it's based on a level of caring you share. Sure, said example one leads to a level of caring, but said example two does not lead or relate to loving to be around them. Can you really love someone if you don't love to be around them? Perhaps what I'm getting into is love laced with lust, versus love? It doesn't make sense to me. But why does this feeling of love also fill them with happiness? Psychologically, I'm thinking along the lines of evolution in that if you are happy around someone you will reproduce with them more. On the other hand, males are polygomous, so they'd be happy to reproduce regardless of whether love was involved. This whole existence of love perplexes me. I don't understand why it exists. If there was no such thing as love, how would society be different? I think people would still reproduce even if they had no feelings for each other. I've heard it said that they feel "complete" when they're around them. Does this mean you were walking around incomplete before? I bet those in love wouldn't have described themselves as such before he or she, quote unquote, fell in love. Can anyone help me understand what is going on here? I can understand lots of other emotions like anger and fearfulness and joy, but love seems different, and it occurs much less frequently. I don't doubt that it exists, because it is so widely described by countless people, but why does it only happen to people once they have reached sexual maturity. This proves that love is closely related to sex, for you can't fall in love with someone at age 7. Why is it that people who have loved and lost say it is hard to ever love another? I mean, I guess it has to do with you admiring them at an extreme level and you connect with who they are. Your brain and emotions get tied in very closely with this person for some reason(but why?), and thus you feel more complete, and if they die of, say, an arrow through the face, part of you dies along with them. Once your brain makes those love connections and wires your brain appropriately based around this person, does their death (metaphorical or no), induce the brain to try to remove those connections since they're no longer useful? This is where I run into a bunch or other questions like whether your brain tries to throw out knowledge and memories. Is everything, everything you ever learned stored somewhere in your head and it's just harder to retrieve? Anyways, those are some of my thoughts on the subject of love. Hopefully they're insightful enough to get you to think for yourself, and if you have anything to add or suggest, as always, just post it.
Rather tired right now am I. Lifting always makes me feel sick to my stomach and that sucks. I don't start feeling good again for another few hours. I don't do it because it's fun, I do it because it's good for me. Dustin is sleeping in the extra bed tonight for some reason he told me but didn't make sense. Blah I feel like barfing. But on to the topic I intend to talk about.
One of the things I wondered about today was why love exists. It's for the purpose of reproduction, a basic human need, along with hunting and gathering and things of that nature. But do other animals fall in love also? Does it really require a higher level of thinking to fall in love? Even the dumbest of people fall* in love. *The way it's worded it seems as though love is this bottomless pit of which there is no escape. Animals (like kitty cats) go in heat, and I'm wondering if this is the same as love. It is for the purpose of reproduction. It ensures that you will reproduce. Love makes you blind to all faults the other person has. Then again, there's supposedly love between family members. I disagree. You love someone in bed. It's not intended for those in the same DNA pool. Unless you're in Mississippi. My point is that there is a difference between love between those dating and those in the same family. With one, you want to be around them all the time, you laugh at all their jokes and think they're the best person in the world. With the other, it's based on a level of caring you share. Sure, said example one leads to a level of caring, but said example two does not lead or relate to loving to be around them. Can you really love someone if you don't love to be around them? Perhaps what I'm getting into is love laced with lust, versus love? It doesn't make sense to me. But why does this feeling of love also fill them with happiness? Psychologically, I'm thinking along the lines of evolution in that if you are happy around someone you will reproduce with them more. On the other hand, males are polygomous, so they'd be happy to reproduce regardless of whether love was involved. This whole existence of love perplexes me. I don't understand why it exists. If there was no such thing as love, how would society be different? I think people would still reproduce even if they had no feelings for each other. I've heard it said that they feel "complete" when they're around them. Does this mean you were walking around incomplete before? I bet those in love wouldn't have described themselves as such before he or she, quote unquote, fell in love. Can anyone help me understand what is going on here? I can understand lots of other emotions like anger and fearfulness and joy, but love seems different, and it occurs much less frequently. I don't doubt that it exists, because it is so widely described by countless people, but why does it only happen to people once they have reached sexual maturity. This proves that love is closely related to sex, for you can't fall in love with someone at age 7. Why is it that people who have loved and lost say it is hard to ever love another? I mean, I guess it has to do with you admiring them at an extreme level and you connect with who they are. Your brain and emotions get tied in very closely with this person for some reason(but why?), and thus you feel more complete, and if they die of, say, an arrow through the face, part of you dies along with them. Once your brain makes those love connections and wires your brain appropriately based around this person, does their death (metaphorical or no), induce the brain to try to remove those connections since they're no longer useful? This is where I run into a bunch or other questions like whether your brain tries to throw out knowledge and memories. Is everything, everything you ever learned stored somewhere in your head and it's just harder to retrieve? Anyways, those are some of my thoughts on the subject of love. Hopefully they're insightful enough to get you to think for yourself, and if you have anything to add or suggest, as always, just post it.
posted by Casey at 11:15 PM
2 Comments:
Guess What...I think im the first person to ever leave a comment on your blogger as far as i know. Brian Mark and Maggie are in the room right now watching some movie iv'e never heard of that i've already missed half of on that small ass TV that i can't see cause i don't have my contacts in anymore. I cannot sleep with the TV or the light on and i don't feel like walking 1/2 a mile down hill in 2 feet of snow to my car in the freezing cold. So as an alternative to all this i have decidede to read this entire blog entry to burn time. The interesting fact is, i found this entry to be quite entrigueauksdbgkubhas...ing.
This one quote "but why does it only happen to people once they have reached sexual maturity. This proves that love is closely related to sex" caught my attention immediatly. I happen to know people who completely disassociate sex with love. For reasons i cannot explain this bothers me, especially considering i think fell in love with this person, but she clearly did not love me back. I have heard of many other people who do not associate sex and love...perhaps this is the evolution of man, considering people don't need to love in order to reproduce anymore.
On another note, i think everyone has two sides. Many people say i have many sides... Oh yeah by the way this is Nick if you haven't already figured that out...I think that i and everyone else has two sides. One of my sides jsut happens to be dynamic. Anyway, I think everyone has a mind side (which i just named) and an emotional side. The emotional side is completely instictual. Only the person you are in love with ever sees the emotional side, which can be completely opposite to the mind side. Because it is instinctual we cannot explain it, such emotions as love or whatever because when in love you do not use your head, sex is also a completely instictual process, or it is suppose to be anyway. Maybe the reason people don't fall in love much anymore and have meanless sex insticts are not require in this modern technological world. Which seems kinda sad doesn't it.
Though i suppose i got to have sex often i probably wouldn't care about all this...
Nick, you are the man. Thanks for being the man. It must be nice. And yes, your comment makes me happy, so thank you. For everyone else: follow his lead, the nick lead of nickdom, for it is a great path.
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